Post Title. 02/24/2010
 
"Non-acceptance is always suffering, no matter what you are not accepting. Acceptance is always freedom, no matter what you are accepting. " Cheri Huber


I've noticed that life tends to go smoother when I go with the flow.  Yesterday I had a conversation that went like this:
Him: Can I have it to use?
Me: No.
Him: Can I have it to use?
Me: No, but you can have this other thing.
Him: Can I have it to use?
Me: No.
Me Later (after this conversation stayed in my head for several hours): Okay Yes.
 
And that lead to my freedom. It stayed in my head because it took energy to hold the 'No'.  When I finally chose to let him have it,  then I stopped thinking about it.  I figured out I was reacting to him being pushy rather than my actual attachment to giving him the thing he wanted. I chose to go with the flow instead of hinder it. What good does that do either one of us?
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"Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies."
- Mother Teresa
It's so easy to take things for granted at times.  I'm going to venture to say that if you are doing a lot of self help work these days it's also easy to lose sight of your strength because you're focusing on the parts of you that you want to make stronger.  I know it has for me.  But if we occasionally check in and see that we're really good at certain things like picking up your pieces, knowing who you can trust, your acute discernment between smells, etc. then you see that you DO have a strong understanding of some things. When we take note of these things, it becomes the platform to build everything else on that seems wobbly by itself.
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"What you are afraid to do is a clear indicator of the next thing you need to do." ~Author Unknown
I've been coming up against a five year old inside of me recently. This five year old is stubborn and indignant about shifting or moving anything in any new direction.  Sometimes I feel frustrated having to find a way to move her into a flow instead of the "stick in the mud" she's being, but I also know that she's being this way because she's scared of change.  The way I go about coaxing her out is being patient because as soon as I get angry or push her to move, she roots down even further and I know that I have to wait longer for her to open up. HA!  Where is your child inside? I've learned the best thing to do with this child is to be understanding and loving unconditionally. She then feels safe to unclench and open a bit more.
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"The better you learn to take care of yourself, the less you settle for being around people who can’t or won’t treat you as well as you’re accustomed."
- Curtis Sittenfeld
Yes.
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